The Most Important Question to Ask if You're Stressing about Conceiving
Do you remember before you started trying to conceive, what you thought it would be like? Maybe it happens pretty quickly — you just do the deed and next thing you know you’re hopping around the bathroom hugging your partner after revealing the positive test? For once, things just go according to plan.
Fast forward to now. Can you believe how the list of what it takes to have a baby has grown? So much doubt and fear creeps in…
Should I be changing my diet?
Is it OK to have a glass of wine or two at my friend’s bday dinner?
Should I be monitoring my cycle more closely?
Should I be doing more to know for certain when I am ovulating?
Should I be doing things to help boost implantation after I think I ovulated?
The list is endless.
The question
If you are amazed by how quickly you went from thinking you’d be pregnant by now to stressing about what may be wrong, ASK YOURSELF this question: Is this feeling new? Or does it feel familiar?
Does it remind you of how you’ve felt not only about getting pregnant but in other areas of your life, recently or when you were younger?
Does it feel like trying to have a baby is one more thing that isn’t working out, like you have to work extra hard when it seems to come easily for others, or like you have to put on a happy face when really you're ashamed/sad/furious inside?
If so, it makes perfect sense that having a baby has become daunting, even though there is no right or wrong way to go about it.
The Solution
The only thing that matters is what serves YOU, and TO KNOW WHAT THAT IS REQUIRES CONNECTION WITH YOURSELF – SOMETHING THAT WAS LIKELY SHUT DOWN ALONG THE WAY BECAUSE YOU LEARNED TO PUT OTHERS’ NEEDS FIRST.
Being connected to yourself is the only way you’ll know what YOU need to have a baby. If changing your diet will feel good or like you’re restricting yourself… If having a drink will feel celebratory or like you’re messing up your chances this month… If you should be using OPKs or if the data will cause your mind to spin…
Next Steps
I can help you resolve the unfinished business from your past in just 8 weeks. When that occurs, having a baby will be the natural byproduct. Schedule a free chat to discuss your unique situation and possibilities.
Don’t wait, this is the most important thing you can do for yourself, both to have a baby but even more importantly, because you deserve to feel better and start living the life you want NOW.